Sanctuary for the Abused

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Sex Addict? 20 Questions to Ask and Recovery


(from Sex Compulsives Anonymous)

Do you frequently experience remorse, depression, or guilt about your sexual activity?

Do you feel your sexual drive and activity is getting out of control? Have you repeatedly tried to stop or reduce certain sexual behaviors, but inevitably you could not?

Are you unable to resist sexual advances, or turn down sexual propositions when offered?

Do you use sex to escape from uncomfortable feelings such as anxiety, fear, anger, resentment, guilt, etc. which seem to disappear when the sexual obsession starts?

Do you spend excessive time obsessing about sex or engaged in sexual activity?

Have you neglected or used your family, friends, spouse or relationship because of the time you spend in sexual activity?

Do your sexual pursuits interfere with your work or professional development?

Is your sexual life secretive, a source of shame, and not in keeping with your values? Do you lie to others to cover up your sexual activity?

Are you afraid of sex? Do you avoid romantic and sexual relationships with others and restrict your sexual activity to fantasy, masturbation, and solitary or anonymous activity?

Are you increasingly unable to perform sexually without other stimuli such as pornography, videos, "poppers," drugs/alcohol, "toys," etc.?

Do you have to resort increasingly to abusive, humiliating, or painful sexual fantasies or behaviors to get sexually aroused?

Has your sexual activity prevented you from developing a close, loving relationship with a partner? Or, have you developed a pattern of intense romantic or sexual relationships that never seem to last once the excitement wears off?

Do you only have anonymous sex or one-night stands? Do you usually want to get away from your sexual partner after the encounter?

Do you have sex with people with whom you normally would not associate?

Do you frequent clubs, bars, adult bookstores, restrooms, parks and other public places in search of sexual partners?

Have you ever been arrested or placed yourself in legal jeopardy for your sexual activity?

Have you ever risked your physical health with exposure to sexually transmitted diseases by engaging in "unsafe" sexual activity?

Has the money you spent on pornography, videos, phone sex, or hustlers/prostitutes strained your financial resources?

Have people you trust expressed concern about your sexual activity?

Does life seem meaningless and hopeless without a romantic or sexual relationship?



The Twelve Suggested Steps of SCA

We admitted we were powerless over sexual compulsion -- that our lives had become unmanageable.

Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

Made a list of all persons we had harmed (either in deed or with lies), and became willing to make amends to them all.

Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it and were honest about it.

Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.

Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to sexually compulsive people and to practice these principles in all our affairs.


The Twelve Steps are reprinted and adapted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Permission to reprint and adapt does not mean that Alcoholics Anonymous is in any way affiliated with this program. AA is a program of recovery from alcoholism. The use of the Twelve Steps in connection with other programs which are patterned after AA, but address other problems, does not imply otherwise.

http://www.sca-recovery.org/20questions.htm

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