Sanctuary for the Abused
Friday, September 29, 2006
HOW TO AVOID LETTING A PLAYER PLAY WITH YOU
#1. If he sounds too good to be true, guess what, he's not !!
#2 Make sure your antennas are in good working order, and when they talk to you, LISTEN CLOSELY. Don't bypass any red flags or a rise of your antennas
#3 Don't center your life around this new friend. Fact of the matter is, he is just words on a screen. Keep up with friends in the real world
#4 If he tells you he loves you before meeting him face to face, don't believe him, they are only words to him; he doesn't feel them!!
#5. If he gives you a long sob story and always has a new crisis in his life. Run as fast as you can, and hide too. Would you truly want to live your life with one crisis after another?
#6. Before you go to IM's with a new friend, spend time in the chats with him and see how he interacts with other women, and continue to go to chats with him, even as the friendship progresses !!
#7. Stick pretty close to home. Someone who you could meet for lunch, think about it, could be up to as much as 3 hours away !!
#8. All players have a mean streak underneath all that mush. Given time it will surface and when it does, don't ignore it! Does he poof when you argue? Or when you're arguing, does he insist on staying on the puter when you try and phone. If you listen closely on the phone, you just may hear amusement in his voice!
#9. Seems that players move fast, quick with the: I love you's, this was meant to be, it is God's plan, you are my soul mate, we are building a foundation for our love, let's tear down walls and build bridges, etc. Face it, ladies, this happens only on rare occasions.
#10. Even if you KNOW him - if he pushes for quick sex, says he can't control himself, has to be with you - after not seeing or speaking to you for years - LOOK OUT!! This isn't the person you thought you know.
These men TARGET lonely women in bad marriages, who may be disabled, single mothers and so on!!