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Thursday, April 05, 2018

If They Might Be A Narcissist?


CHARACTERISTICS of the NARCISSIST and others with Cluster B Personality Disorders

1. Self-centered. His needs are paramount.

2. No remorse for mistakes or misdeeds.

3. Unreliable, undependable.

4. Does not care about the consequences of his actions.

5. Projects his faults on to others. High blaming behavior; never his fault.

6. Little if any conscience.

7. Insensitive to needs and feelings of others.

8. Has a good front (persona) to impress and exploit others.

9. Low stress tolerance. Easy to anger and rage.

10. People are to be manipulated for his needs.

11. Rationalizes easily. Twists conversation to his gain at other’s expense. If trapped, keeps talking, changes the subject or gets angry.

12. Pathological lying.

13. Tremendous need to control situations, conversations, others.

14. No real values. Mostly situational.

15. Often perceived as caring and understanding and uses this to manipulate.

16. Angry, mercurial, moods.

17. Uses sex to control, manipulate. Sex is objectified - NO REAL CONNECTION.

18. Does not share ideas, feelings, emotions.

19. Conversation controller. Must have the first and last word.

20. Is very slow to forgive others. Hangs onto resentment.

21. Secret life. Hides money, friends, activities.

22. Likes annoying others. Likes to create chaos and disruption for no reason.

23. Moody - switches from nice guy to anger without much provocation.

24. Repeatedly fails to honor financial obligations.

25. Seldom expresses appreciation.

26. Grandiose. Convinced he knows more than others and is correct in all he does.

27. Lacks ability to see how he comes across to others. Defensive when confronted with his behavior. Never his fault.

28. Can get emotional, tearful. This is about show, getting caught or frustration rather than genuine sorrow.

29. He breaks woman's spirits to keep them dependent.

30. Uses threats & intimidations to keep others close to him.

31. Sabotages partner. Wants her to be happy only through him and to have few or no outside interests and acquaintances.

32. Highly contradictory.

33. Convincing. Must convince people to side with him.

34. Hides his real self. Always “on”

35. Kind only if he's getting from you what he wants.

36. He has to be right. He has to win. He has to look good.

37. He announces, not discusses. He tells, not asks.

38. Does not discuss openly, has a hidden agenda.

39. Controls money of others but spends freely on himself.

40. Unilateral condition of, "I'm OK and justified so I don't need to hear your position or ideas"

41. Always feels misunderstood.

42. You feel miserable with this person. He drains you.

43. Does not listen because he does not care.

44. His feelings are discussed, not the partners.

45. Is not interested in problem-solving..

46. Very good at reading people, so he can manipulate them.

(though we have used the male gender, your narcissist may be female 

they only need to have a few of these characteristics to be narcissistic!)


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shared by Barbara at 12:36 AM



This is the best description I've ever found online and every word is my experience. Unfortunately, when you run they'll run after you to tell you they're NOT liars or bad people, while at the same time telling you they don't CARE what you think. When the anger goes and healing happens all you can really do is pity them.

3:09 AM  

I AM GOD. The last line in the video. Sums it all up. It's what ALL psychopaths truly believe. My husband will take credit for a beautiful sunset, painting, color, anything. If I remark on something he will say "you're welcome, I created it" or some comeback where he takes credit for it. I thought he was being funny. Oh no. He truly, sickly, sadly believes that it somehow exists because of him. Do not fool yourselves. Evil is real.

Mri's (checking for psychopathy) before medical school acceptance? Sounds good to me!

9:24 AM  

Wow...accurate portrayal....and the evil that surrounds them is so difficult to be near. The way they collect their team of supporters and uncaring and cold...the way they use, abuse, discard.....I know those of us they live with someone who thinks they are actually above God know how real the evil is...and how difficult to get away from as well...

12:15 AM  

Even a wife's medical emergency has to be all about him. As long as she's critically ill, he's getting attention for being the poor devoted husband of a critically ill wife and has to be seen as her "savior".

6:57 AM  

Oh what's that movie? He's it alright!!

7:02 PM  

Very good descriptions of characteristics and actions, however, I feel this list is very sexist. My abuser, who I believe to be a narcissistic sociopath, is a woman. This means items like # 29 are true for both sexes. My former fiancee has ruined our family by abducting our 6 month old son across state lines and fabricating a story to manufacture jurisdiction in her home state to get her way. She has exhibited violence by attacking me with our son in her arms and has shown zero regard for my son's safety or rights as well as mine. I understand in my research that men are more likely than women to be narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths, however this does not mean that ONLY men are narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths. I would appreciate change in the verbiage to reflect a more balanced view to the victims and the abusers. Thank you.

4:54 AM  

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