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Tuesday, February 06, 2018

The Sociopath or Narcissist At Play

The Psychopath/Narcissist at Play (The Cyberpath)

Exploitation is easier to accomplish on-line. The level of exploitation is all over the place. Clearly the most dangerous are the Cyberpaths. These sociopaths, psychopaths -- unwholesome, psychologically scattered individuals -- can exploit you in truly damaging ways.

Despite common belief, a cyberpath is not always very easily identified, especially since you cannot see the person "in person." The more clever, the more intelligent the cyberpath is, the more you will not become aware of what you are dealing with, until it is too late.

What he (the psychopath) gets he spoils and wastes...

A psychopath, in this instance, the cyberpath, is merely looking for a way to fill in his time with empty exploits. They are highly narcissistic, and the internet provides fodder for them. I have known various cyberpaths, and they move from victim to victim, seeking people to feed their endless need for narcissism. When you've found them out, or they tire of you, they move on to the next victim, or target for narcissistic supply.

Dominance and power are recurring themes in the social relations of psychopaths.

Dominance, power, and having followers are very important to the cyberpath's need for total adulation and control. Cyberpaths absolutely bask in adulation, many using pity, in a most conniving way, to get the attention that they need. Sometimes the way a cyberpath asserts his control is done subtly.

The psychopath often plays jokes and tricks on others to humiliate them or to assert dominance.

Sadly, many are mistaken about the typical cyberpath. A cyberpath is not always looking for money or sex, quite often, he or she is merely interested in taking you along for a ride. I also do not believe that psychopaths/cyberpaths always know that they are hurting you. A psychopath behaves the same way with everyone. Most of them take pleasure merely in playing the rouse, and not much else. A psychopath has no interest in your inner emotional state because they themselves have no empathy. They merely enjoy "pulling one over" on people.

And to put rest to another common myth, very few psychopaths are stalkers, because they have no true emotional connections to anybody. They simply move on to another person who piques their interests. A psychopath cannot truly love and therefore cannot become obsessed with another individual. They are too egocentric, narcissistic, and lack emotional connection to any other human being.

The central theme of Don Juan's (the psychopaths's) seductions is not even the sexual enjoyment, but playing the trick... While he gives no real love, though he is quite capable of inspiring love of sometimes fanatical degree in others...

Again, this quote from Gordon Bank's work, "Don Juan as Psychopath," reveals that the cyberpath is mostly interested in playing tricks with his prey, almost in a playful way. To the cyberpath, such things are not really big deal, while for the victim, however, it becomes a rather big issue indeed.

Many of the victims of cyberpaths enter therapy as a result of this. Many victims believe themselves to be flawed after an experience with a cyberpath. Some of them are harrassed by the family and friends of the cyberpath, which makes matters worse.

He is motivated primarily by the need to dominate and humiliate either the person he is 'taking' or, very often someone connected to another person with whom he is involved.

Cyberpaths relish in another's humiliation, which may appear to us as a certain, perverse quality. They take pleasure in what we find obscene, because they are not like other people, they have no true connection to anybody, and are incapable of feeling real love. Messing with another person's emotions and life is merely a way to pass the time, pulling one over on you is fun and enjoyable.

Most of the crimes psychopaths commit, tend to be "crimes of the heart" and/or "casual cruelty", they are cruel, manipulative people who leave a trail of broken hearts and often broken lives behind them.

Again, most cyberpaths are common internet liars and predators. They are rampant on every single online dating site.  Do not be fooled by someone who tells you that there is such a thing as a "harmless liar." A liar is never harmless. A person who lies should never be trusted, and once you find out they've lied to you even once, it's time to break it off.

Once having drained what they can from one source, they turn to others to exploit, bleed, and then cast aside; their pleasure in the misfortune of others is unquenchable. People are used as a means to an end; they are to be subordinated and demeaned ...the pleasure they gain from their ruse often flags once the rewards of deceit have been achieved.

Before long, their true unreliability may be revealed as they "stop working at" their deception or as their need grows to let others know how clever and cunning they have been

A cyberpath may keep you hooked for as long as they need your narcissistic supply. Once you start getting "wise" to them, however, or once he or she begins to tire of you and find that your narcissistic supply is becoming inadequate, you will soon find out, through some subtle manuevers, that your absolutely "perfect" future mate is nothing but a charade.

Some of these con men also relish in playing more expansive games. Once you have fallen in love with him and accepted a marriage proposal, it is not uncommon for this type to sudddenly send an email explaining that he is dying of an incurable disease or that he is an FBI agent and has to move to another country, therefore ending all contact with you. I have heard of this happening to many women.

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shared by Barbara at 12:45 AM



The writer of has written a superior article. I got your point and there is nothing to argue about. It is like the following universal truth that you can not disagree with: It is impossible to understand the behavior of dogs and cats at the same time, unless of course you're a cat. I will be back.

10:26 PM  

Barbara, I found this great quote and although it may not go with this post, it's worth reading. Thanks for a great place to put this stuff!

"QUOTABLE “Psychiatrists are the only medical
specialists who rarely look at the organ they treat. The
odds are that if a patient is having serious problems with
feelings (eg, depression), thoughts (eg, schizophrenia), or
behavior (eg, violence), the psychiatrist will never order a
brain scan. He or she will prescribe medication, psychotherapy,
electroconvulsive therapy, or a host of other treatments
that will change brain function—but will not know
which areas of the patient’s brain work well, which areas
work too hard, and which do not work hard enough. In my
opinion, the lack of brain imaging has kept psychiatry
behind medicine’s other specialties, reducing our effectiveness
with patients and hindering our efforts to reduce
stigma and improve compliance.“
—Daniel G. Amen, M.D., in
“Why Don’t Psychiatrists Look at the Brain? The Case for
Greater Use of SPECT Imaging in Neuropsychiatry”

The website and title of the article are "Crime Times: Linking Brain Dysfunction to Disordered/Criminal/Psychopathic Behavior" Volume 10, Number 2, 2004.

7:29 PM  

This article is fascinating. I have a very old friend (30+ years) who contacted me about a year ago. It seemed innocent enough but as it turned out he is a cyberpath and every single thing he ever said to me was calculated. As a writer, I am fascinated by this and wish I could move characters a long in a story as easily as he can move people along toward his ultimate plot ... lol. I admit I was hurt by his behavior but now I am just curious and also very sad for him and especially for his family. I hope they don't know for their sake but I wonder how likely it is after all these years that he has been able to hide this disorder from them. He's very smart but I think they would have to be very naive or in complete denial.

12:56 PM  

This is exactly what happened to my friend, when she became friends out of fascination with his horrible disorder she found out he did everything in this article. He bragged to her how he did it. Mind you he was married! When she asked if he felt bad about doing this to the women he calmly Sick, disordered bastards.

6:35 PM  

this is exactly what happened to me - the N has never once made any direct communication with me - never talked argued shouted - all the narcissist ever did was be manipulative online

I felt things strange in the beginning which lead me to do research into - people who always talk about themselves - which opened the door to learning about narcissism

the narcissist was always however way ahead of me and in the end I became ostracised from the group we were both a part of - this exclusion is almost like an investment on his part that he gains from each day - he has all the others who he has placed himself as the kingpin - all utterances on the forum we would all share are somehow not validated until the narcissist comments - it makes him omnipresent - makes his place in the group almost unassailable - my exclusion has never been questioned by the others even thought I was a strong part of the group before this happened

I am left depressed - my desire to take part in this beautiful sport has left me as it also means being near the narcissist - thought of that always leaves me feeling so anxious it is paralysing...

I have had therapy - and may return to it - but what you say in this article makes perfect sense to me. It is a deep truth.

12:06 PM  

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