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Sunday, May 05, 2013

Passive-Aggressive Behavior


Passive-aggressive communication is a means of expressing anger indirectly. 

Examples of passive-aggressive behaviors are listed below.

PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIORS AND ISSUES

Examples of Passive-Aggressive Obstructionism


Examples of Common Fears and Issues for Passive-Aggressive People

Dealing with passive-aggressive people can be especially difficult, particularly when you are relying on them to do something properly and on time, without difficulty and complications.

In the workplace, passive-aggressive people should be dealt with administratively, since trying to work around, adjust to, and change their behavior is impossible. They will sorely resent the supervision; however, they were likely already displeased and resentful of it anyhow.

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Passive-aggressive people will always find a way to slip out of what you need them to do or otherwise make you pay for trying to get them to cooperate.
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Dealing or working with a passive-aggressive person can feel like a gigantic game of Whack-a-Mole.

Once you think you’ve addressed the first excuse, lie, issue or ambiguity, they’re off and running presenting you with a third, second and fourth. It’s as if they’re playing a mental game designed to exhaust you into giving up asking anything reasonable of them. Insisting and pressuring them into fulfilling their obligations only makes things worse.

When in situations where you are forced to work with them, do not assume responsibility for their work or lack thereof. Do not let the maddening inefficiency and game-playing get to you. Concentrate on your own responsibilities, and minimize working on joint projects with them as much as possible. Above all, don’t take the bait that sends you begging them to cooperate. They will only resent you for it and get you back later.

And definitely, without delay, add passive-aggressive people to your list of toxic people to avoid wherever possible.

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"Dealing or working with a passive-aggressive person can feel like a gigantic game of Whack-a-Mole.Once you think you’ve addressed the first excuse, lie, issue or ambiguity, they’re off and running presenting you with a third, second and fourth. It’s as if they’re playing a mental game designed to exhaust you into giving up asking anything reasonable of them. Insisting and pressuring them into fulfilling their obligations only makes things worse."

This is all typical behavior for someone with the brain functioning of a psychopath. SOOOOOOOOOOOO we run around trying to GET THEM TO DO THEIR JOB, in ADDITION to doing our own job. There is NEVER a good time to deal with psychopaths.

10:47 PM  

Keep thinking about these Bible verses: 1 Corinthians 13:13 "Three things will last forever--faith, hope, and love--and the greatest of these is LOVE." And 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 "4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

The greatest of these is LOVE. And think about it, mri's PROVE that people with the brain functioning of a psychopath do not process this emotion (love). And the second verse about love is patient.....all these things that are the fruits of the Holy Spirit living inside you are completely absent in psychopaths. And how being in their presence and especially when they have control in our lives, actually TAKES AWAY our faith our HOPE and uses our love to DESTROY us.

I think I used to believe these were things to "work" for or try to achieve, but through God's grace, I see that these are gifts that are GIVEN to us. I can't paste them on or make a checklist and attain them. And the fact that they are completely lacking in psychopaths is VERY important don't you think? But you COULD use it as a checklist to CHECK for psychopathy: kind (nope), does not envy (full of envy), does not boast (loves to do this), is not proud (get REAL! Full of pride). Just go through the rest and check for yourself.

God continues to reveal Himself to me through the horror of psychopathy. It sounds crazy to say this and if it's His will, I want to prevent others from going through this. But because of the reality of what psychopaths are, and how it's all written in God's word, I'm coming to know God more deeply. That what he says in His word is true. And when he warns us of the dangers of marrying evil ones, he does it because he loves us and wants us to be happy. Please don't make the mistake of marrying a psychopath and giving birth to more of them. I can't change this in my life but through God's grace, I can prevent someone else from doing this.

6:08 PM  

Anonymous - you probably need to leave/ divorce him.

http://www.divorcehope.com

9:02 PM  

I agree. My husband is a passive aggressive. Which I only realised after 6 years of marriage. We started our nice and he is the nicest, most empathetic, gentlemen I have even knew. 6 months into our relationship he started to chat on sites to seek sexual partners and make sure he left hints to get caught, the day I was giving birth he googled for sexual services (purposely not erasing search history), other times he will disappear from earth. Each time I have anxiety frantically looking for him and he will come back clean saying that I am a control freak. Recently I found out that he has been having affair and he put the blame on me that because of my anxiety, he feels suffocated and needed space.
It has been a long 6 years. I believed this time it is another of his game

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