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Monday, October 07, 2013

Splitting



Protecting Yourself While Divorcing a Borderline or Narcissist
 

Publisher: Eggshells Press;
by William A. Eddy, forward by Mike Roe

SPLITTING is designed for anyone facing a high conflict divorce, whether or not your spouse meets the criteria for a Borderline or Narcissistic Personality. Its explanations of WHAT TO EXPECT in Family Court and WHAT TO DO to protect yourself and your children, can be used by anyone, including your attorney, your therapist, your family and others involved in your case.

I wrote SPLITTING after ten years as a divorce attorney representing many fathers (and mothers) whose spouses appeared to have Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders or traits. Since I had been a therapist for the previous decade, I recognized these personality problems -- but I did not realize at first how successful they can be at manipulating and confusing legal professionals.

Rather than being rational and protective, the Family Court process can be very unpredictable and inadvertently encourages false allegations, aggressive and sometimes violent behavior, and intense blaming of the Non-BP or Non-NP spouse. Many Nons have been unable to protect themselves and their children from abuse by the BP or NP, and instead have found themselves experiencing restraining orders, supervised visitation, financial sanctions and even incarceration, because the courts are often more persuaded by the intense emotions and blaming behavior of a Borderline or Narcissist, than by your honest presentation of the facts. I call them "Persuasive Blamers."

This book explains how the Family Court process interacts with these Persuasive Blamers, and summarizes the lessons I have learned, including: the importance of careful preparations before announcing the divorce, using therapists and experts, avoiding short hearings on important issues, fighting hard at the beginning rather than trying to fix bad decisions later, and how to work most effectively with your attorney.


--William A. Eddy, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Family Law Specialist

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4 Comments:

Why not blame the BPD and NPD people when they cause so much pain, abuse, suffering. They lie and manipulate to get their way.

6:03 PM  

HORROR! Is no one else HORRIFIED by this article? MRI'S CHECKING FOR PSYCHOPATHY and then protection for the non-psychopaths. PRE-RELATIONSHIP MRI TESTING so as to prevent and protect us from this!

I'm so glad the person wrote this book as there is CLEARLY a need for it. Why? Because pretending the courts are FOR the best interests of all is simply not true. The court system is a victim in many ways like the rest of us. Burdened down with all the lies and running around trying to fight the insanity of psychopaths. (Not to mention that many lawyers and judges are psychopaths themselves. This is a prefered job for psychopaths.) MRI'S CHECKING FOR PSYCHOPATHY BEFORE HIRING THEM.

11:15 AM  

PLEASE SIGN MY PETITION! MY PETITION IS TO EDUCATE OUR COURTS AND LEGAL SYSTEM ON FEMALE SOCIOPATHS! The courts are sympathetic to sociopaths. WE ALL KNOW HOW SOCIOPATHS ARE SKILLED LIARS, THEY PLAY THE VICTIM SO WELL, and it's easy to feel sorry for them. Especially women. BUT THE CHILDREN SUFFER. AND THE FATHER WHO CARES FOR HIS CHILDREN SUFFERS ALSO. Once the female sociopath has manipulated the legal system she will use the children to manipulate the father. By denying him access to the children. Who suffers most? The children. PLEASE SIGN THIS PETITION SO WE CAN EDUCATE JUDGES AND ATTORNEYS AND THE COURTS ABOUT FEMALE SOCIOPATHS

http://www.change.org/petitions/female-sociopath-awareness-inform-the-courts-on-female-sociopaths-inform-others-on-female-sociopaths?utm_source=guides&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=petition_week_one

3:08 PM  

I have to laugh, as the female sociopath in my case is the judge. Judge Laura Drager of NYS supreme court is famous for her crimes against women and children. Correction, crimes against fhe non monied spouse who can be male too. Laura Drager YELLS in her own court room, she is famous. Usually you are presenting incontravertible evidence and she screams. My friend was handcuffed in her court for asking Laura Drager nicely not to bellow. Drager ignoes rules, Stipulations, best interests of the child, precedents, she is a corrupt sociopath. Drager is famous for making women andchildren homeless dueto her sadist tendecies. Drager permits domestic violence against you and your kids. This is wrong! Consider signing a petition to remove Judge Drager at Change.org! The court system is broken in the US, there is no transparency, the fox is in charge of the hen house! Drager's cronies run the discipline and ethics committees, what business has self regulation??????? There are a lot of sociopaths male and female charged with being officers of the court. Try officers of crime and corruption!

4:41 PM  

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